It’s been brought to my attention this week several times that women feel this need to be more, do more and have more. This constant pressure that comes from social media, commercials, magazines and even our own web of friends and family is ruining our lives. This may be a bold statement but I feel fairly certain a lot of you can relate. Most of the women who sit in my chair or accords from me at the dinner table have expressed to me that they are:
- Not good enough
- Somehow ruining their children
This has to stop. All of these women are women I admire, appreciate and DISAGREE strongly with. They are all the most amazing parents, they are brave, compassionate and remarkable women. So why are we constantly so down on ourselves? Here are some thoughts I have about this world… read at your own risk!
As I have shared before on this blog I lost my father last year. It had put me on a redirected journey from what I had envisioned for my life. The irony is that my life is actually exactly what I had envisioned in principle. I have found myself refocusing, reevaluating and making radical and necessary changes. I shared a little while ago about what I think nurtures happiness, you should go read it if you haven’t but today I want to talk about “being content.”
In our modern world we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. We live in fear of doing the wrong thing, making the wrong choices and how we may offend or disappoint others. Let’s just take a moment to think about this. At the end of our life, regardless of who or what we believe in there is one person who we are 100% accountable to, OURSELVES! However we continue to go through life influenced by our fears and insecurities.
Imagine living in the moment, being okay with not knowing what our future brings? Is that really terrifying or is it exciting? Did you know that setting plans and expectations for our life can actually set us up for all kinds of toxic negative feelings? Plans always change course, hiccups happen and of course all good things come with hard work and challenges. I’m not saying that striving for accomplishments isn’t healthy. Setting goals and achieving them can be the most fulfilling feeling. Hey, I was a business owner by 25. Trust me when I say I understand personal motivation and life goals. I also know that balance is healthy. I’m learning that it’s important to take a step back and enjoy the ride. The art of rolling with the punches life throws at you is something I will forever try to understand but I know the punches are coming and will continue until the day I leave this earth. What I am trying to say is that we all have incredible lives. We are lucky to have clean affordable water with a country that provides incredible opportunities. We have so much to be thankful for. We also have each other. If we are able to gain some perspective, find our gratitude and be mindful of our intentions we can see that everything is going to be ok. We are right where we are supposed to be and we do not need to have everything figured out. We are all figuring life out too. There is no rush. You are enough and you are perfectly imperfect. Be gracious to yourself and stop letting the world control your decisions and emotions. You may be surprised to see what’s directly in front of you that you haven’t noticed because you have been chasing a dream that wasn’t yours to begin with.
Big thoughts but I wanted you all to know I think you are amazing and you need to give yourself more credit. Live a little less worried, a little lighter and more content.